"When he first hit you, you should have been alert. When he came to your company, you should have been cautious. When he got involved with your sister, you should have stopped it. But you chose to give in!"
Human concessions have no bottom line. When there is a first, there will be a second. When others think you can back down, they will push layer by layer, until you are forced into a corner.
Ding Suzhu is a typical example. Because of traditional beliefs, she believed in enduring first in everything, always thinking that retreating would broaden her horizons. Moreover, the one entangled with her husband was her own sister. As the saying goes, family scandals shouldn't be made public. It's this mindset that ultimately harmed her.
This forward-thinking was the first time they had heard it, and they all fell into silence.
They admitted that Gu Tong was right, but they wanted to refute.
This might be the drawback of traditional thoughts clashing with new ideas.
